the guides
Guides to help you decide
Situations we all go through, and ways to see them more clearly. None of them decides for you. They just help you lay things out.
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Flip a coin, but not for the result
Flip the coin, and notice what you're hoping for while it spins.
Dilemmas like yours
Shared anonymously, with the real question underneath.
The dilemma for two
Each of you writes your side. Dessille says what's going on between you.
How to make a hard decision
A step by step way through when a choice has you stuck.
Stay or leave a relationship: how to know
Telling love apart from habit.
How to say no without feeling guilty
Setting limits without feeling guilty.
Should you quit your job?
Leaving toward something, or just running away? Not the same thing.
How to decide when you're afraid of regret
Deciding when the fear of regret freezes you.
Should you follow your head or your heart?
Listening to your reason and your heart without pitting them against each other.
How to stop overthinking
Get out of the loop and finally make the call.
How to know what you really want
Untangle your real wishes from other people's.
How to choose between two options
Decide between two options without flipping a coin.
Weighing the pros and cons, for real
Use the list well, and know when it isn't enough.
Should you change your life? How to know
Tell a real pull from running away.
How to make a decision as a couple without falling out
Decide together without one crushing the other.
Have a baby now or wait?
Separate your real wish from outside pressure.
Should you cut ties with a toxic parent?
See clearly between guilt and your own well-being.
Should you accept or decline a job offer?
Look beyond the salary to choose well.
Should you go back to school?
Tell a real plan from the urge to escape.
Should you stay friends with your ex?
Tell a sincere friendship from a page not yet turned.
Cutting ties with your adult son or daughter?
When it's your adult child who hurts you, or drifts away.
Cutting ties with your family: what about the guilt?
Separate what you feel from what's expected of you.
Taking distance without cutting ties
Protect yourself without breaking everything: the degrees in between.